Erotic play with wax is a beautiful and sensual thing. A well-done wax play can be both a foreplay and a bona fide BDSM-session. This practice is not hard to engage in, if you follow the safety rules. And it is something even a beginner can try.
Getting ready
A massage candle is suitable to play with wax for newbies: it contains vegetable oils and aromatics that add to the romantic mood. After the oil melts in the candle, it turns into an erotic massage oil. You can drip the wax on your body as it melts, or you can wait for the candle to burn down and then you can massage it. If you are ready for a hotter play, select only special low-melting-point wax play candles.
Your play space should be free from flammable items. Make sure you have a place to put away your candles after your ‘lit’ foreplay is over.
Scenario
- Warm up your partner both physically and emotionally: an aroused body has a higher pain threshold.
- Hold the candle vertically when you light it up! Wait for 5 to 10 seconds and then test the skin reaction to wax on the crease of your elbow. Its skin is very thin and sensitive.
- Then check your partner's reaction to wax if you don’t want a colorant/firming agent/flavourant allergy to become an unpleasant surprise.
- To make the candle burn evenly, rotate it vertically.
- Hold the candle at the height of at least 30 centimeters to test the first drops of wax. If the wax spatters around, lower the height.
- The most arousing moment is when you scrape off the wax drops with the knife. Carefully remove the aftermath of your play with the flat of the blade — a subtle sensation of danger can be quite a turn-on!
This new stimulating gimmick in your bedroom can become a gateway to sensual experiments.
A lifehack: if you want to play with the most sensitive areas — genitalia, nipples — use only massage candles during your first sessions to avoid skin damage and burns.
Warning!
This is first and foremost a play. We strongly suggest not to skip the aftercare — the process of tender-loving care and attention. These can be BDSM sessions, rough practices or any sexual interaction. It helps to relax, come down from a feel-good chemical rush, return to a comfortable, safe space. There are many ways to provide aftercare, for example by discussing the sexual interaction that just happened, what worked well and what didn’t, to cuddle, bring water, cover with a blanket or a plaid, take a bath, turn on your favorite music or other.