Bondage is one of the most common fantasies. Temporary loss of mobility is especially relevant for the strident partners, as well as perfect for testing a new device.
Getting ready
Select the method of fixation. These may be handcuffs, bondage tape or a shibari rope. It is advisable to buy special handcuffs for bondage: they are strong enough not to fall apart at a crucial moment. If you choose a rope, please do not try shibari without prior training from experienced masters — this is a difficult and traumatic art where safety is a must. Even simple nodes done without proper training can do some harm.
Also, choose what to tie the partner to: a bed, a cross in a BDSM hotel, a ceiling suspension or even the heating piping.
Create a sexy play-friendly environment. Light candles, incense sticks. Remember to discuss boundaries, fantasies, wishes and taboos. Choose a safe word. Discuss the important thing: If someone gets uncomfortable, feels unpleasant, scared, the play stops immediately. Remember that taboos cannot be broken, and without a safe word it is better not to start any action (even if you do not need it).
Scenario
You can move this play in different directions. You can make it a femdom (female domination) or a maledom (male domination): grab by the hands, push passionately onto the bed, sit on top of the partner, twist her hands, grab her hair. Order the partner to keep his mouth shut. Gag her/him if they talk too much. Punish him/her. Spank on the buttocks or inside of the thighs, bite the nipples. Reward with a cunnilingus or fellatio. Praise and let go. Remove the ropes or handcuffs slowly, as the process of release is very pleasant and it is an important part of practice.
You can also play a tricky and gentle seduction. Lure him/her into the bedroom. Blind fold him/her: “Don’t worry, a surprise awaits you”. Lead him/her to the bed. Tie their hands and feet together. You can take something soft and you drive it against the body. Like a feather or a brush. Another option is to use a whole set of tools: Wartenberg wheel, tickler, stack, vibrator, ice, candles, massage oil. Alternate the tools and ask your partner to guess what’s touching his/her skin.
This play doesn’t have to end with sex. It can be both a great foreplay and an independent sexual practice.
Warning!
This is first and foremost a play. We strongly suggest not to skip the aftercare — the process of tender-loving care and attention. These can be BDSM sessions, rough practices or any sexual interaction. It helps to relax, come down from a feel-good chemical rush, return to a comfortable, safe space. There are many ways to provide aftercare, for example by discussing the sexual interaction that just happened, what worked well and what didn’t, to cuddle, bring water, cover with a blanket or a plaid, take a bath, turn on your favorite music or other.