Joint shibari is a practice that allows you to get close and try something new with your partner. You are bound together and you enjoy the process. It can be a very pleasant experience for a couple.
Getting ready
Find a good shibari master with whom you will feel comfortable. It is strongly recommended to avoid unverified specialists. You can risk having the experience spoiled. If you have any friends who have practiced shibari, ask for their recommendations and impressions. Rely on references, but also on your personal feelings.
Discuss between the two of you what emotions and experiences you want to have. What you expect from the practice.
We also advise you to talk to the master about your fears, your triggers. For example, for someone complete immobilization can cause discomfort or even a panic attack. It is worth considering this to avoid unpleasant moments in the process. Warn the partner and master about your fears.
Scenario
Free up time before and after the session. You need to get on the right wave-length before the session and rest after it.
First, the master will talk to you over a cup of tea to find out what your expectations are, what is your level of preparation, and whether you are even ready for shibari. If this has not happened, it means you are dealing with an amateur and it could be dangerous.
Doing shibari together is a good opportunity to get to know each other better, to get a new experience, to feel connection and closeness. You will experience things you’ve never experienced before. It’s a very intimate process that can add passion to a relationship. It also allows you to analyze your relationship with your partner, whether you understand each other well enough, whether you can communicate well.
How can the master tie you up?
- Face to face
- Back to back
- Just hands or feet
- Bondage and suspension
These are just a couple of examples from a wide range of possible options, the variety of which depends only on your imaginations, master’s skills and common sense.
After the practice is over, we advise you not to miss aftercare: share your experiences, cuddle, make yourself cozy and comfortable.