If you have wanted to flog your partner for a long time, it seems that the moment has arrived. For this play you will need to be in pugnacious spirits and have a paddle handy. Paddle is a special device for flogging from a close distance. Almost by magic, it will turn a misdemeanor into a bonding practice.
Getting ready
Does your partner mix up "their" and "there" in your correspondence? Yet again forgets what kind of tea you like? Often late on your date night? Then there’s something to punish them for!
- Discuss each other’s taboos and desires. Talk about how you see this play. If your ideas are different, then you have to come up with some compromised concept. This interview should take place a day or two before the session in a calm, trustworthy atmosphere.
- Make sure that both of you are in good mood: full of vigour, uplifted and up to some mischief.
Scenario
To make the process easy and fun, choose a situation close to you in your everyday life. For example: Partner is ignoring you chatting with a colleague? The living room is left in a mess? Home late after hanging out with friends? Your genuine resentment can be dismissed by rewriting the story. In order to gently enter the play, prep your partner and yourself, create the necessary atmosphere, you can start a playful dialogue:
- What took you so long again?/ I am mad that the entire place is a mess. I think someone is guilty and needs to be punished.
- You want to make me glad ? There will be time for that later. Now I want to punish you, you nasty girl/naughty boy! Pull down your pants!
Before you proceed to flogging with a paddle, warm up the partner. Make sure that he/she is comfortable, stroke their buttocks with your palm, carelessly, as if you have softened your temper, and there will be no punishment.
You can slap the buttocks with your flat palm softly. You can experiment with speed and force of impact. When you and your partner get hot and eager to go on, pick up the paddle.
To start with, stroke the buttocks with the device, let the partner get used to it. Then make the first slap. Don’t hit it with a bang — you don’t want to hurt your partner. Try different ways of hitting. For example, spank with equal force on one spot or on different spots; spank stronger or then spank weaker. The anticipation is sometimes more powerful than the slap itself. Try to experiment with pauses between spanks and with the strength of impact. Continue your punishment until you are satisfied or your partner asks for mercy.
Women are often more sensitive to flogging, as the tissues of their buttocks are softer than those of men, which lowers the pain threshold. Thus this practice may not work for men.
Warning!
This is first and foremost a play. We strongly suggest not to skip the aftercare — the process of tender-loving care and attention. These can be BDSM sessions, rough practices or any sexual interaction. It helps to relax, come down from a feel-good chemical rush, return to a comfortable, safe space. There are many ways to provide aftercare, for example by discussing the sexual interaction that just happened, what worked well and what didn’t, to cuddle, bring water, cover with a blanket or a plaid, take a bath, turn on your favorite music or other.