Adult videos are watched by everyone, and it’s not embarrassing at all! But you have to choose wisely, and to consume it consciously and competently, so that it does not harm you and your relationship.
Share your favorite porn actors and actresses, your top five search queries on porn sites. For example, you often look for “oral sex”, “gay sex” or “sensual”, prefer retro films, femborn or products of certain studios. If you find anything in common, you can arrange a joint viewing.
Porn can reflect your desires and preferences in sex, and it can still be something that you can only look at and be aroused. It is important to remember that mainstream porn is the visualization of outdated notions of sex, where a man is a superhero with a steel erection and a woman caters to his desires. The real-life sex of real people doesn’t fit this limited stereotype, so you can think of it as circus tricks or the work of stunt performers.
Sexual behavior in reality can be completely different. Follow your desires and listen to your partner more often.