A sense of novelty is something that is often lacking in a long-term relationship. You can do it by experimenting with the format of your relationship, but there is another way too. Pretend to be strangers for the day. Remember how it started, or write your story from scratch. This play usually works quite easily and seamlessly, even if you are not used to role-playing.
Getting ready
Think about what the scenario will start with so that you don’t feel lost. Don’t learn it by heart, but don’t start off with anything unprepared. Talk about each other’s taboos and desires. Talk about how you think about this play. Maybe your ideas are different and you have to come up with some common denominator.
Scenario
Option 1
Strangers at a supermarket.
Visit the nearest supermarket. Take a trolley and go in different directions. From now on, you are not together. You are strangers who’ve never seen each other. Meet at the detergent department as if by accident. Ask the girl what detergent to choose for the black underwear.
- I’m sorry, could you help me choose a detergent? I don’t know anything about them.
- Yes, of course. But I don’t know much about them either. Let’s read what it says here. What underwear do you need it for?
- Black.
- Oh. Black is my favorite color of lingerie. You can take this one - it leaves a nice fragrance after washing. Do you have any allergies?
- Wow, that is a bit too intimate. Something like an allergy happened to me as a kid, but I don’t remember anything now.
- Better get the one for children. It will work. By the way, did your wife send you?
- Oh no, me married? I recently moved out of my parents' house. Buying stuff for the new home.
- Where do you live?
- Main Street, 42
- Wow. It’s near my home. We are neighbors.
- What a coincidence! My name is Andrei, by the way.
- Yana, nice to meet you
- The pleasure is all mine. What a beautiful name! Can I help you carry the bags?
- I’m perfectly capable of carrying this bag myself. But why not, I will accept the offer of help if it pleases you. Going home alone is boring.
- Do you live alone?
- No.
- With a boyfriend?
- Almost. A cat. Why? Are you a stalker?
- Sure. I help girls with their groceries bags and I eat half of the food in the process.
After a little chat and a little help with the chores, walk her home. Next, the girl can invite a young man over for tea, then you can have sex. Or you can say goodbye without going upstairs and nurture that sense of interest in the new person, the excitement and fantasy that comes with it. And then meet again and again.
Option 2
Meeting at a bar.
Make an appointment at the bar. Have one of you come in early and take a place at the bar. Sit down next to him/her and start a dialogue as if for the first time. Embarrassment and excitement are perfectly normal when meeting for the first time. Ask them what their cocktail of choice is.
- Good evening. I see you like Margarita.
- Good. Actually, no, I just thought that it would look fancy.
- Do you want to impress someone here? Or are you waiting for someone?
- Now that’s a secret!
- Well I am a sucker for secrets.
- Good for you.
- Would you like me to recommend you a better cocktail?
- Give it a try!
- Who are you waiting for, by the way?
- You, of course. :)
Do some bar hopping, take a stroll through the streets. Enjoy being curious and easy.
- What do you like about this city?
- The nice people that live here.
- This is true. What do you say we go pay a visit to...?
Flirtation in the play should not be dragged out and soon you can invite a new acquaintance to your place.
Warning!
If you get into the role of strangers too much, it can increase the distance in a relationship. After the play, take some time to restore the order of things. Share impressions of what you like and what you don’t like that you want to do in the future. Watch a movie cuddled together, shower together, order a delicious meal. Make each other warm and comfortable.