Try making your home video. It is a useful therapeutic practice that helps to get to know both yourself and your partner, to get rid of the complexes and to stop worrying about how you look during sex.
Getting ready
Choose a convenient place: bedroom, living room, kitchen, bathroom, car, etc. You can set up lighting for a better view.
Discuss each other’s taboos and desires. Find out how you envisage this home movie. Agree on a safe word when discomfort appears.
Scenario
You can use several scenarios at once.
Casting. Play casting for the lead in a porn movie. The future porn star can be both a man and a woman. Both cases have their own upsides: one is meant to order what to do and the other is meant to obey and demonstrate their skills and advantages.
- Hello. Are you here for the casting?
- Yes.
- Show me what you got. I’ll be filming, if you don’t mind. Start by taking your clothes off slowly, like you are seducing me.
“Producer” assesses the figure, the moves, sex appeal of the model. Ask for nudity. It’s a home video, so it’s safe to give the model a test assignment, for example to engage in petting with you.
First-person POV. The video will be especially captivating when it uses the first-person point of view. You can take turns, so you can see yourself from the partner’s point of view. Start shooting with foreplay. Focus on each other’s interactions and emotions. Feel free to talk. If you get to oral sex, penetration, etc., try to direct the camera not only on the genitals, but also on the hands, the face — emotions are very important. Capture the orgasm on film.
Camera on a tripod. If you put the camera on a tripod, it frees your hands and gives you freedom of action. Choose a place with good lighting and go for it. Your sex can be passionate, slow, sensual, or rough. The important thing is that you enjoy it, so that your movie becomes a real masterpiece.
After the home movie is done, watch the recording together. After the session, we advise you to delete the video, so that it stays only in your memory.
Warning!
This is first and foremost a play. We strongly suggest not to skip the aftercare — the process of tender-loving care and attention. These can be BDSM sessions, rough practices or any sexual interaction. It helps to relax, come down from a feel-good chemical rush, return to a comfortable, safe space. There are many ways to provide aftercare, for example by discussing the sexual interaction that just happened, what worked well and what didn’t, to cuddle, bring water, cover with a blanket or a plaid, take a bath, turn on your favorite music or other.