“Go harder” — most people probably heard this at least once in their life. Maybe during sex as well. Porn is rich in rough sex scene. And it is understandable: a rather popular fantasy of passion without limits is embodied finds its way to the screens. Slapping in the face often appears in such scenes. But there is no explanation how to do slapping safely to avoid lasting bruises. Here are some helpful tips and a scenario of rough sex with slapping.
Getting ready
Discuss each other’s taboos and desires. Talk about your vision of rough sex. Maybe your ideas are different, and then you have to come up with some compromised version. This discussion should take place a day or two before the session in a calm, trustworthy atmosphere.
Warning! This is first and foremost a play. We strongly suggest not to skip the aftercare — the process of tender-loving care and attention. These can be BDSM sessions, rough practices or any sexual interaction. It helps to relax, come down from a feel-good chemical rush, return to a comfortable, safe space. There are many ways to provide aftercare, for example by discussing the sexual interaction that just happened, what worked well and what didn’t, to cuddle, bring water, cover with a blanket or a plaid, take a bath, turn on your favorite music or other.
Scenario
For starters, choose which of you will dominate. Each of you has its own kinks, so both scenarios can turn out exciting. There’s a third option: when you are competing for the “top” position. This is when you can spit, spank, grab by the hair and, of course, have passionate wild sex.
Hard sex can start with easy play coercion — take the partner by the hands, drag them to bed. Just don’t exceed the limits you set for each other. Any play is good in moderation.
You can wear underwear that you don’t mind tearing up in the process.
Bite, wring each other’s hands, squeeze each other. Feel the moment when a slap in the face would be proper. Slap it with your flat palm with a little swing: you only want to tease each other, not hurt each other.
Don’t forget to end the practice with tender hugs and caring for each other.