If cunnilingus for you is not more an exotic practice, but part of a sexual routine, we advise you to try its sensual version. This is the slowest and heartfelt process which goal is to make sex last longer and give time to both of you to enjoy the charm of unhurried sex.
Getting ready
Oral sex means your desire to be engaged in this practice, to give pleasure to your partner. We do not recommend performing cunnilingus as a favor or just for the sake of the fact. Most likely, it won’t be pleasurable for any party involved in the process.
Hygiene is very important for the comfort of both parties.
Oral sex lubricant will encourage the secretion of saliva and add flavor (choose a suitable flavor: from strawberries to cinnamon bun).
If that's not your option, it's worth keeping a glass of water nearby to moisten your mouth promptly.
Remember! Oral sex can transmit STI just like penetrative sex. We recommend using latex oral dams or condoms during oral sex.
If during cunnilingus or rimming an oral dam is not available, it can be made from any condom. Cut off the tip of the condom and then cut the condom lengthwise so that the tube becomes a sheet.
All people have a different approach to cunnilingus and different desires. The best way to come to a mutual understanding is to communicate and ask questions during sexual activity.
Scenario
You don’t have to focus on chasing the orgasm as you get down to cunnilingus. What is more important is to make the process pleasurable for both parties, slowly enjoying it without trying to reach the finish line (the climax). Perform cunnilingus in a delicate and sensual way.
You can start slowly with a little foreplay — stimulate the receiver’s vulva in underwear, then focus on this body part with kisses and licks. We advise you not to hurry, enjoy every moment. Some girls may have a very sensitive clitoris, so you should start with stimulation of other erogenous zones. Pay attention to the buttocks, thighs, legs, labia, vaginal opening — caress them, give light kisses, move from gentle to more intense action. Turn on your partner and then move on to her clitoris if that’s what you both want.
The clitoris can be stimulated not directly, but through the clitoris hood (it is the fold of skin that surrounds the head of the clitoris). For many people, talking about their feelings is still difficult. If this is true about your partner, she may hold your hand/shoulder, or pull your hair when she feels particularly good. We suggest watching her breathing rhythm and movements.
Some girls are embarrassed by the smell and taste of their vulva and vagina, so they can't relax during the process. To help her feel more comfortable, you can tell her that you like her smell and taste. It will take the pressure off. If you watched too much porn, you might think that the main thing about cunnilingus is strength and speed. But this is not true. Slow, sensual movements with your tongue are much more enjoyable for many women, and during the activity, we would advise focusing on the reactions of your partner.
Don’t forget to use your fingers. You can press lightly on the pubis or insert your fingers into the vagina for additional stimulation. You can spread the labia and gently stimulate the area just above the clitoris with your tongue. You can also add finger stimulation, alternating horizontal and vertical movements. With your free hand, stimulate the breast, nipples, gently running your fingers over your partner’s body. When you feel that your partner is about to climax, we would recommend you to continue the thing you are doing, not dropping the pace. If you slow down, it can affect or delay the orgasm.
Remember that all girls like different things. Some prefer stimulation of the clitoris and vagina during cunnilingus, some enjoy only light tongue movements around the clitoris. Always watch your partner’s reaction, ask what your partner enjoys and take action.
After you are done, don’t forget about the aftercare: kiss each other, lie in each other's arms, talk about what you enjoyed most of all, and share your impressions.