For men the prostate is similar to the female G-spot. Its stimulation can be very pleasurable, especially when performed by the loved one, gently and skillfully, as it has a large number of nerve endings. In order to enjoy this practice and not to injure the delicate anal area, it is necessary to know safety techniques and to follow our recommendations. Or you can find some training courses for this to feel more confident.
Getting ready
The male prostate is a source of unique pleasure that has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Any man is capable of experiencing it for a purely physiological reason — innervation of this area. It is important to relax and be prepared for this pleasure.
This practice requires great care and attention. Here are some tips that will help you in this process:
- If you have long nails, it’s best to give up practice. If your fingernails are medium length, here’s a life hack: put a cotton wad under the nails of the index and middle finger, cover it with a nitrile glove.
- In no case should you use a lubricant with cooling or anaesthetic effect — you can inflict injury without even noticing. Pain is a sign that something is going wrong and the practice has to stop.
- If you have small fingers and can’t reach the prostate, you can use special silicone fingers found in many sex shops. There are regular smooth, ribbed and even vibrating ones. The last two are better used after a few times when you feel more confident in anal play. Such toys will increase sensation and diversify prostate massage for experienced users.
- When entering, you should wear gloves or a condom on your fingers. Latex slides well on its own, and it also distributes lubricant evenly.
A man has to do some preparation. Usually, it’s enough just to relieve yourself in the toilet, because the bowel is clean by itself. But to be completely confident, you can use Microlax or a douche.
Trust each other, relax and enjoy the process. You can play nice music and light candles.
Scenario
- Start with foreplay. For example, erotic massage.
- Put your partner in a comfortable position. Usually, it’s a posture on back, with legs apart. Or on all fours.
- Drive your hands around your partner’s crotch. Pay attention to the perineum (groin) and the area around the anus. Ask your partner if he finds this pleasant. Apply the lubricant.
- When entering, use one finger. Let the partner get used to it, then you can add another finger. Also let him get used to it again. Movements must be circular, incremental and very gentle. Make spiral movements on the inside, gently and carefully “screw” the finger deeper inside the partner. Stimulate the prostate with your fingertips. Don’t forget to keep in touch and talk about how it feels.
- The prostate is located a few centimeters away from the sphincter, on the anterior wall of the rectum. It is easily felt: it is a round area, different from the walls of the intestine texture. The partner can let you know if you found it or not. Usually it is very pleasant to touch. If the partner feels pain, stop the practice.
- Massage the prostate very gently. The main principle is: do no harm. Try different movements: circle, side to side, push. And find out which are the most pleasant. A man can achieve an orgasm, especially if you use your second-hand or mouth to stimulate his penis.
- Finishing the prostate massage should also be gentle. Pull your fingers out slowly, in circular movements, just like you did with inserting. Remember to do it slowly.
Be sure to discuss how it went, share your emotions and impressions.