An erotic party is an opportunity to diversify your relationship, try new practices, and belong to the community of individuals capable of interaction. We advise you to get ready before plunging into sexual freedom and new experiences.
Getting ready
First of all, you should choose a party format. Party formats can be different:
- Mass parties — anyone can get to a party, there are a lot of newcomers.
- Closed private parties — you can get there by invitation or only regular guests who have already been to parties a few times; they were invited by the same organizer.
- Theme parties — they have a certain theme that creates the atmosphere of the evening.
- Music parties — all the emphasis is on the music.
- Expensive and less expensive parties — you can find a party for your budget.
Before you make a decision, it's a good idea to read reviews, look at the website, and pay attention to the rules of the event. Tips for partying safely:
- Clear rules for interaction with other people. Safe parties have a culture of consent and organizers enforce this culture at the parties. What is the essence of a culture of consent? In order to start a communication, you have to get someone’s consent, and silence does not mean consent. The “no means no” is respected in this culture.
- Face control rules for the guests. Before you pay for your ticket, you have to fill out a questionnaire and provide links to your social media accounts. Only those who do not broadcast their sexist, homophobic, and other discriminatory ideas or support the culture of violence, get a coveted link to pay. Such requirements are taken to ensure a safe atmosphere at the party where every guest feels secure and can safely enjoy themselves and the people around them.
- You can't use phones/cameras inside. It allows for anonymity and leaves everything that happened at the party — at the party.
- Mandatory dress code and face control at the entrance. Costumes are part of the atmosphere, if the organizers are keeping an eye on it, it's a good sign.
You have chosen a party, what are the next steps?
- It's worth thinking about why you are going to a party. Just to watch sessions, to try new practices, or to have sex.
- Do you need company? If so, you need to think about it beforehand. Some people feel more comfortable when people they know are around. You can suggest that someone from your friends go with you — tell them more about the party, show them photos, videos, reviews. If you have a partner, you can suggest attending a party.
- We recommend thinking about your costume. Normally, sex parties have a specific dress code. To make it easier, organizers find proper party attires.
If you are going to a party with your partner:
- It is important that you both want this, without pressure or manipulation.
- It's worth discussing in advance the type of interactions that are comfortable for both of you. Whether it is possible to kiss, have sex with other party members. We advise you to discuss all details to avoid conflict and in order not to spoil your impression.
- If you plan to hang out at the party separately, we recommend that you arrange a time and place to meet (it is convenient if you have a watch). At the end of the party, you can meet at the bar, in the cloakroom, or at the exit.
Scenario
At the party you can only watch other people being engaged in sexual activities, not taking part in the practice. It’s completely normal.
If you attend the party with your special someone, you can fondle each other and have sex together. It will add new sensations and increase arousal.
Remember that you don’t have to have sex at a sex party. The party creates a perfect atmosphere and provides a safe space if you want to have sex. You can come and watch other people, enjoy a space, and dance.
A sex party is a great way to try new things, to get a feeling of the unfamiliar, mesmerizing atmosphere, and to decide to do something you’ve been thinking about for a long time.
After the party, we recommend talking about your impressions and emotions and discussing what you have enjoyed and what haven’t. Think if you want to try it again.