A good old home orgy is an excellent option to try something new and experience group interaction in a safe atmosphere. We’ll tell you how to organize it, so that everyone will feel comfortable and well.
Getting ready
The goal of the preparation of the event is to create a fun, relaxed and safe environment in which people will feel comfortable. And the main purpose of the orgy is for people to have a good time whether they have sex or not.
The important part is guests. Invite those who you know or are sure of to create a truly safe space. Start with the people you trust, create a chat room with the invitees so everyone can see who’s going to be there. This helps avoid embarrassment, because if a person sees someone on the list they don’t want to meet, they’ll be able to adjust their plans. It would be great if one of them had the experience of such parties.
Write down the rules of conduct and attach them to the invitation so people know about them beforehand. For example, “No means no”. The rules should be clearly defined and taken into account in drawing up the list. Announce if there’s a dress code and what it is so that everyone can prepare well.
The venue should not be freely accessible, because human security depends on it. So we advise you to give the exact address only to a limited list of those invited.
If possible, zone the space. For example, divide it into zones for communication and interaction. Or set up areas for different practices (wax play, bondage, flogging, massage) so that the required accessories can be easily found there. Decide who will be responsible for the security. It can be you or involve someone you trust to be able to relax from time to time.
Decide on the music. You can use different kinds of music in different zones: some zones can be with calm music, some with rhythmic. This will help create the right mood and atmosphere.
Safety is a must-have for any sexual interaction, especially an orgy. Condoms, Miramistin, lubricants, gloves must be readily available in ample quantities. For oral sex we recommend using latex oral dams or condoms.
If during cunnilingus or rimming an oral dam is not available, it can be made from any condom. Cut off the tip of the condom and then cut the condom lengthwise so that the tube becomes a sheet.
Decide if using smart phones is allowed during the orgy. Write it down in the rules, observe compliance, and remember that banning telephones helps to relax, feel safer, and not be distracted from the process of receiving and delivering pleasure.
Decide about alcohol consumption at the party and during the process. It could affect people’s behavior. Announce the policy beforehand.
Tell the participants beforehand if staying overnight is planned or not, so that people are prepared to gather and leave if not. They will also be pleased to know beforehand and to prepare if the sleepover is scheduled. In the morning, you can discuss how it went, get feedback, or continue to enjoy each other sexually.
To create cosiness you can hang lighting chains, small lanterns or simply fill the rooms with colored light. Pink and red lighting sets the playful and passionate mood, helps to open up sexual energy and to prepare for experiments.
The main difference between an orgy and a swing party is that you can invite all “combinations” of people. This means that it is not necessary to invite only couples — call everyone with whom it is pleasant to interact and to communicate and who is ready for this kind of sexual practice. It’s up to you, no boundaries.
Scenario
You set up the space, you send out invitations and rules. People start to gather, what do you do next?
Start with a tour: show where the different zones are and tell how they differ. Go over the rules again.
You can start a dating play if there are people who have never met each other. Try new practices: soft flogging, wax play (use only special candles), shibari.
The atmosphere should be comfortable and non-restrictive. People can interact with each other in any combination or not at all. Sometimes if someone starts a play, others join and can continue together, after asking for permission. Gather feedback and support those who have become emotionally troubled or if something has happened. Each party has its own dynamic. Usually they work according to the following pattern: warm-up, the main part and the stage of completion when the activity gradually decreases and people move on to resting.
Don’t stop the party abruptly, even if you want it to be over by 6:00 sharp, give people time to digest the experience and relax. Everyone needs a different amount of time to get a good experience and get involved in the process, the party usually ends organically by itself.
If you want to moderate the wrap-up, you can do it with the atmosphere. Loud music and dark spaces motivate people to continue. Bright light and quiet music — on the contrary will motivate everyone to finish.
Communication is a good way to end an orgy. Discuss with those who want the best moments, what they liked, what they didn’t like, what the best experience was. The experience will remain pleasant if the physical contact is seamlessly transitioned to the emotional and intellectual one. Invite the most pleasant and active guests to the next event or invite one of them to organise their own.