In the animal world, bites are an element of play and communication, and for humans, another way of expressing passion. They can be gentle, providing only a light and pleasant sensation, or rough, in which case they become part of a full-fledged BDSM act. Test your pain threshold, gradually increasing the bite strength.
Getting ready
Biting is easy. But there are three important points in foreplay.
- Discussion. Ask if the partner likes biting. Maybe they have had such an experience or fantasize about it. Would you both like to try biting as an independent practice or as a complement to more comprehensive sexual interaction?
- Pain threshold testing. Be sure to check how sensitive the skin of the partner is.
- Safety. It is important to observe hygiene, not to touch the teeth of the injured areas, to agree on a safe word.
Scenario
Bites vary in intensity and can be an independent practice or a nice addition during sex. To keep your experience as positive as possible, first know each other’s pain threshold.
Pain threshold ranges from low to high. This is the individual sensitivity of sensors, which perceive signals and transform them into pain signals depending on many factors: force of biting, areas on the body, characteristics of the person. A low pain threshold usually means increased sensitivity and pain sensations sometimes even from a light touch. On the other hand, a high level means greater resistance to impacts, “thick” skin.
How to test your pain threshold?
- Check different areas on your body. Start with neutral areas, such as shoulder blades and the outside of your shoulder. The skin there is dense enough and generally not very sensitive. Then move to more gentle sections: inside of the wrists, neck, collarbone, chest and nipples, abdomen and so on.
- First, brush the tested spot with your hand, then touch it with your tight lips. Usually no painful sensations occur at this stage, but the sensations themselves can be intense.
- Then try to sort of scratch the skin with your teeth. Open your mouth wide, carefully, grab some skin with it. It’s all about doing it gradually. Increase the bite strength smoothly by shifting the jaw. Don’t pull the skin on you, push it. Stop as soon as you are asked to.
After the sensitivity has been tested, it is possible to proceed with the practice, bearing in mind the safety:
- Biting does not mean trying to bite through or leave scars. It is better to ask beforehand what the partner thinks about marks on their body.
- Avoid severe genitalia bites: this can cause pain shock.
- Choose a safe word with which you will understand exactly that it is time to stop. For example, “bag”.
Biting will fit nicely into almost any play with dominance-submission elements. Or it will just set you up for real animal sex.
Warning!
This is first and foremost a play. We strongly suggest not to skip the aftercare — the process of tender-loving care and attention. These can be BDSM sessions, rough practices or any sexual interaction. It helps to relax, come down from a feel-good chemical rush, return to a comfortable, safe space. There are many ways to provide aftercare, for example by discussing the sexual interaction that just happened, what worked well and what didn’t, to cuddle, bring water, cover with a blanket or a plaid, take a bath, turn on your favorite music or other.