The desire to choke a partner lightly during sex is a common thing. In scientific terms respiratory restriction is called asphyxia. It is the most dangerous of the deprivation practices, and is quite popular in porn.
Mild strangulation during sex causes increased sensations and a more intense orgasm. This practice is attractive due to transfer of power over the body, temporary loss of control. We’ll tell you how to try asphyxiation carefully and safely.
Getting ready
Do not use thin cords, belts, pillows and other objects to limit breathing. The blood pressure in this case is poorly controlled, and the consequences can be severe, ranging from unconsciousness to a heart attack.
Scenario
Safe asphyxiation includes the following:
- Communication. The basic rules of any BDSM practice are Safe, Sane and Consensual. Talk to each other about how comfortable it is to limit your breath during sex, at what point of interaction it is better to strangle. Agree on a stop gesture. This should be a movement that means the action must be stopped. For example, a pat on the back, strong squeezing of the partner’s hand.
- Training. Test together what power and duration of asphyxiation is comfortable for the partner. Use your palm (this is important!) to hold the neck under the chin, squeeze it a little bit. Feel the pulsation under your fingers — it’s the carotid artery that, if squeezed, produces a mild dizziness effect. Do not squeeze the central part of the neck, as compression of the trachea causes coughing.
- Practice. Strangulation feels especially good on the verge of orgasm. As you know, the brain is the main erogenous zone. When you lack oxygen, the brain sort of redirects attention to intense sensations from the genitalia. In the heat of passion, it is not easy, but it is necessary to remember safety: squeeze the neck not more than 3-4 seconds.
After practice we recommend asking how the partner felt during asphyxiation. Feedback from the active party is as important as feedback from the receiving party. You can show care by asking the following questions: How did you feel in the process? Were you comfortable in that role? What should be changed? Cuddle, hug to return to the normal state.